I never used to think that there was anything negative or undesirable about being emotional, or having an emotional reaction to something. Then last week I read the following post from a spiritual teacher on twitter:
"The more emotional energy you give to situations, the more you stop your spiritual growth."It took me a few days to take that in and try to process it. I had always thought that emotions were to be honored and expressed, lest they fester and create illness in the body.
During my childhood, my family expressed emotions- negative emotions. Positive or loving emotions were apparently embarrassing or taboo. Anger was equated with power, dominance and even intelligence. It's no wonder that I developed the notion that emotions- negative emotions- were desirable.
Yet my adult observations have shown that emotions can interfere with communication and effectiveness, a concept I found expressed eloquently on Surgit's blog:
It is possible to speak truth in anger.
When so done, people tend to hear the anger and not the truth.
It is possible to speak truth in arrogance.
When so done, people tend to hear the arrogance
and not the truth.
It is possible to speak truth in deceitful ways.
When so done, people tend to sense the deceit
and take the truth for more deceit.
It is possible to speak truth in loving kindness.
When so done, people tend to hear the love and the truth......-Jesa MacBeth
Clearly, this idea is worthy of my attention. My goal now is to figure out how to regulate the body to remain in a state of peaceful calm no matter what goes on around it, like the eye of a hurricane.
Wish me luck with that!