Tuesday, October 13, 2009
The goal of the week
I dislike going through old things. I define "old" as anything unused during the past year or longer. Unfortunately, I'm finding some things that I've never even looked at since we moved here 8 years ago. Old things depress me; therefore, I have a hard time dealing with them. I remember one time when a friend of mine came over and just walked into my closet and started telling me what to get rid of. She ever loaded the rejects into her SUV and took them to the Salvation Army. The funny thing is, I think she herself is a hoarder. She couldn't help herself, but she was phenomenal at helping me.
Oprah has had hoarders on her show recently. I used to think I was a hoarder, but now I realize I'm just a bad housekeeper. I really don't want to keep things, and I'm not an avid shopper like most hoarders are. And my house doesn't look as bad as the disaster zones hoarders live in.
My problem is twofold. First, I have no help- any cleaning or straightening up is done by me alone. Secondly, I seem to have an ususual ability to block out the mess, to narrow my focus to whatever I'm doing, totally oblivious to my surroundings. I guess bad housekeepers have to have that ability- otherwise, they'd get their act together.
My mother used to have her own mother and my father helping her keep the house in order. Gram was obsessive- she'd get down on her hands and knees and straighten out each tassel on the rug with a clothespin. Oh, I'd LOVE to have her around! My dishes would always be clean, the sofa cover would always be in place, the food would be put away, the laundry would be done, she'd prepare meals, take out the trash, vacuum, sweep, dust and provide psychological counseling and babysitting.
It doesn't seem fair. My mother had 2 other adults helping her on a daily basis, and she did not work outside the home during most of her adult life. I work fulltime and have no help whatsoever- no relatives within 600 miles (not that they'd necessarily help!). Is this a sign of the times or am I just unlucky in this regard?
I really want to reach the point where I can honestly say that my house is organized. I wonder if that's doable. If it is, then the next hurdle will be maintenance.......well, that's another story.
Posted by B.S. at Tuesday, October 13, 2009