Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Experimental Meditation

It's time to put my money where my mouth is. For as long as I can remember I've been repeating this mantra: "Oh, I know exactly what I need. I don't need a book or a guru or a counselor to tell me this. The only thing that's going to slow down the whirling is meditation."

I am tired of seeming so unsure of myself. Decisions are agonizing torture, calling for advice from anybody who'll bid me the time of day. It's quite amazing, come to think of it, that I actually went into action last summer and put my house up for sale. I can only explain it by assuming that enough people told me to do it. Granted, they were all sick of hearing me debate with myself, ad infinitum, as to whether I should move to the urban neighborhood I coveted, where I could walk (instead of drive) to my life's destinations.

I even used you, my blog readers. Many of you indulged me with encouragement and suggestions regarding what is becoming my theme of the year : to move or not to move.

Now, my house still sits on the market, with showings (for potential buyers) fewer and farther between, as winter approaches. The ever-active whirling dervish of my mind wonders: "Hmmmmm....this must mean that I wasn't meant to move......this house IS in a great location, after all, on this incredible rose garden....if these people can't appreciate my house, then I'll just STAY here- I'll show 'em...although I do hate living in the suburbs....yet as time passes and my savings seem to be dwindling, I see that I can't really afford the more expensive, trendy urban neighborhood- that's the reality of the situation...why can't I live in the area I want to, in the house I want?....is there any way I can make it happen?........should I get a new realtor?.......maybe if I could find a man to hook up with, together we could afford what I want....etc., etc." This is what it's like inside my head.

It's nothing that a little meditation can't fix, right? We'll see. Instead of agonizing over neighborhoods, (or any of the other more fleeting issues like whether or not I was dissed at work) the theme of this week is going to be MEDITATION, and my objective is to slow down, and to empty, my mind. Its chatter is driving me crazy.

7 comments:

Sideways Chica said...

Good luck on emptying your mind chica. You've got your work cut out for you. I should know, as I whirl too! ;)

Ciao bella...

Betty said...

Hah, you're not kidding, Teri! It should be an interesting week....

Hugs,
Betty

jillbeth said...

Whoa! Don't find a man just for financial security. It's a nice bonus, but first make sure you have your eyes set on the same goals!

Betty said...

Don't worry, Jillbeth- I wouldn't actually do that! It's just one of my many fleeting thoughts. So far in my life, it's actually been the opposite: I've been taken advatage of financially by the men I've dated!

Hugs,
Betty

garnet david said...

I agree with teri- emptying your mind it's like saying, "I'm going to climb Everest this week".

I've begun to think of the word "meditation" as meaning "noticing". It's less goal oriented and more process oriented.

x
G

Betty said...

Dear Garnet,
I really can empty my mind, or so it seems, for short spurts. And yes, then I'm right back to the same old, of course. "Noticing" is another goal of mine now, which I do whenever I think of it. I'm supposedly noticing that chatter which I'm trying to empty out during meditation. it's all a very tall order.

hugs,
Betty

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