Sunday, January 31, 2010

Box it, label it and put it way

Unfortunately, I am now my own counselor.  I am struggling with a problem which has lasted longer than most of my problems.  Often, my problems seem to magically disappear within a fairly short period of time- sometimes overnight.

I have had to construct a plan for dealing with the current problem, since it is not going away and it puts me in a bad mood.  The plan is to label it, box it and put it away.  It is going to remain, but I don't want it to affect me anymore.

I am embarrassed to admit that the problem has to do with money.  Before The Child entered my life, I made a pact with myself that I was never going to let money make any of my decisions having to do with The Child.   That as back before my huge salary cut which resulted from the reorganization of my workplace. 

And for years, I stuck to that rule- I paid a king's ransom for organic cloth diapers after carefully researching the topic, I paid for a very pricey private preschool, I paid thousands each year for the very best babysitters.  From a very early age, the Child loved electronics and I indulged his every whim, more or less. When The Father sued me for custody of The Child, I spent thousands on a lawyer to prevent the troubled, abusive man from ruining The Child's life.

Then a couple of years ago my workplace shut down for a few months and then miraculously resurrected, but with radically lower pay for all employees.  There are precious few jobs in this field (no openings in the entire country right now) so job seeking was never a viable option.

Here's the problem:  The Child was born with problematic teeth.  He's missing 10 adult teeth- they'll never come in because they're not there.  Three years ago the Child and I started seeing an orthodontist.  I paid $2500, thinking that that was it- I was finished paying for orthodontia- and I thought that was quite a lot of money!

Imagine my shock when, during last week's orthodontist appointment, I was handed a bill for over $5,000!!!  After they scraped me up off the floor, they explained that the $2500 was for phase 1.  The $5,000+ was for phase 2, and phase 3 would follow!  (Mind you, The Child doesn't even have braces on his teeth yet!)

So that's it- that's my problem.  In my current state of finances, that $5,000+ is prohibitive and I'm having a hard time accepting it.

I am putting it in a box labeled "An unexpected, unwelcome expense which could be higher and could be related to something far more unpleasant then The Child's orthodontia.  As far as problems go, this is not a very bad one.  The people who jumped out of windows during the 1929 stock market crash did not have their priorities straight."

Hopefully the box will now collect dust in some remote, neglected corner of my mind.

4 comments:

Lynilu said...

Ah, Betty. I hear that. Almost everyone I know has a similar story of crunch in their lives. I can only say to hang in there, do your best and keep trying. That's what I tell myself, and it helps. Sometimes.

Aurora said...

Betty,
Yes, sometimes the things we felt were priorities have to take a temporary back seat.
However, knowing how clever the Child is, I wouldn't be surprised if he ended up helping people build or fix their computer's and ended up making the money himself over the next few years!

Laurie said...

Honey...I want so bad to wave a
magic wand for you...I totally
lucked out with Josh...But I did
about faint when told that I would
be paying $3,000. out of pocket
for his braces...See if they will
allow you to make payments...

I don't know if y'all have it there
or not but here we have MEDICADE
for people who need insurace and
are either not offered it through
work or don't make enough money...
It carries a child till the age
of I think 18...

But Honey, I know what ya mean...
Just packing it away and never
thinking of it again...

Wish you a so much better tomorrow!

HUGS!!!!!

Laurie


ps. I started ANOTHER blog...I know
this is #3 but nobody but a few
knew about blog #2...

themoreithinkthelessiknow.blogspot.com

紅包 said...

Lets cross the bridge when we come to it..................................................