tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post117173768914427419..comments2023-11-03T07:37:35.682-04:00Comments on Whirling Betty: clarity at last?B.S.http://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1172511022209063172007-02-26T12:30:00.000-05:002007-02-26T12:30:00.000-05:00You make a good point. When trying to make change...You make a good point. When trying to make changes to make one happy, you have to first look at what doesn't need to be changed and be happy with that. And then, sometimes, what you think needs to change, ends up being the last thing that matters.Irishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03368365789695838193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1172199816611963272007-02-22T22:03:00.000-05:002007-02-22T22:03:00.000-05:00Dear Simply Me,Wow- if my son lived near a friend ...Dear Simply Me,<BR/><BR/>Wow- if my son lived near a friend he'd been with since kindergarten, I wouldn't be moving, either. Not yet. Come to think of it, if I lived near Lisa I wouldn't be moving either. Not until she was moving, too!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1172199679561520262007-02-22T22:01:00.000-05:002007-02-22T22:01:00.000-05:00Dear Teri,You're right. An upset apple cart is pr...Dear Teri,<BR/><BR/>You're right. An upset apple cart is probably exactly what I need. Today I almost bailed out of my adventure again until Garnet reminded me that yes, it's going to be expensive but so what? What's the money for if not adventuring?<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171997807210186572007-02-20T13:56:00.000-05:002007-02-20T13:56:00.000-05:00That was a great post...I love critters and such a...That was a great post...I love critters and such and long for a day when I could move to my rural PA home which sits empty most of the time. I love the smell of country air and summer mornings, watching to see where the groundhog is. My 14 y.o. is in H.S and out of great love for him I respect that he wants to finish school here on Long Island with his friends. Especially Lisa's son who is his best buddy since kindergarten. We all have longings...maybe one day soon. <BR/>Good luck and may the universe conspire to give you clearer answers.2bmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00058872754661017038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171914968337100472007-02-19T14:56:00.000-05:002007-02-19T14:56:00.000-05:00An upset apple cart may not be such a bad thing ch...An upset apple cart may not be such a bad thing chica. ;)Sideways Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002230726261736435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171856459344183712007-02-18T22:40:00.000-05:002007-02-18T22:40:00.000-05:00Dear Garnet,I like the thought of someday being a ...Dear Garnet,<BR/><BR/>I like the thought of someday being a hero on par with my grandmother. Meanwhile, I'll remain focused on the journey.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171853275252024472007-02-18T21:47:00.000-05:002007-02-18T21:47:00.000-05:00Betty, you are on the journey of your life. Most p...Betty, you are on the journey of your life. Most people just wallow in their lives, permitting only enough self-exploration to justify keeping the status quo. For what it's worth, keep reminding yourself of the value of the journey itself, and perhaps the clarity will come in time.<BR/><BR/>I have a feeling you will someday be the hero to someone that your grandmother was to you!DTclarinethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06482572917950645940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171818031971882672007-02-18T12:00:00.000-05:002007-02-18T12:00:00.000-05:00Dear Desiree,I like your coin flipping idea. You'...Dear Desiree,<BR/><BR/>I like your coin flipping idea. You'd be surprised at how many times I've used that technique!<BR/><BR/>You also reminded me of something very important: I might as well enjoy the search! Perhaps instead of it being a problem, it can be re-framed into an adventure.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171817863897748232007-02-18T11:57:00.000-05:002007-02-18T11:57:00.000-05:00Dear Teri,There's still a nagging question in my m...Dear Teri,<BR/><BR/>There's still a nagging question in my mind- I really want to know what my house search symbolizes, or what caused it. Is it really just an inborn desire? Could it be that simple? If it is, I guess I ought to be a realtor. <BR/><BR/>But there are so many houses that I strongly dislike- that's why I never considered becoming a realtor. I have a lot of emotion attached to these buildings! That's the difference between me and a realtor.<BR/><BR/>Right now I'm on top of the world, whirling all three, as you say. I live in nature, but I'm searching, and I'm picturing myself and the child in one particular urban house (not the original one!). If somebody makes an offer on my house, they'll be upsetting the apple cart!!!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171817361019619212007-02-18T11:49:00.000-05:002007-02-18T11:49:00.000-05:00Dear Lisa,I'm glad you're "long-winded"- I always ...Dear Lisa,<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you're "long-winded"- I always enjoy reading your take on things. And you helped me to realize that my situation really is a little unusual in that I am not unhappy with my current life or situation. And that is why motivation is sometimes lacking, too. My house is only a 15 or 20 minute drive from downtown, so it's certainly not out in the boonies. Because it's inside of the outerbelt freeway, many people consider this urban!!! (It's not.)<BR/><BR/>And wow, 5&10's don't even exist here, but I fondly recall the one in my hometown in Johnson City NY. (And yes, I walked to it!!!)<BR/><BR/>Here's to enjoying the confusion!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171812359002186842007-02-18T10:25:00.000-05:002007-02-18T10:25:00.000-05:00Betty, It is confusing indeed. I've often found in...Betty, It is confusing indeed. I've often found in life that I haven't gotten what I wanted because I was too confused to define it and this sounds like your case. I guess the only way you can define it is to think further and make clear decisions one way or the other. Perhaps flip a coin! <BR/><BR/>I really could relate to a lot of what you are saying. I too love nature and enjoy living with all the wonderful wildlife but I like to live in town where I can walk. What's more I love looking at different houses. The upside with that is at least you know that you will enjoy the search and can take your time about finding just the right house for you if you do decide to move.<BR/><BR/>Good luck Betty with your decision!Desiree https://www.blogger.com/profile/13346243770084778113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171756121826019002007-02-17T18:48:00.000-05:002007-02-17T18:48:00.000-05:00Dear Betty...I LOVE this post. Thank you for clear...Dear Betty...I LOVE this post. Thank you for clearing that up for us chica...and yourself.<BR/><BR/>I wondered what piece of the puzzle I was missing. I know you hate driving, and sometimes those who drive. I also know that you love nature and natures little creatures. The house hunting hobby I did not know about. You have a hat trick - and a dilemma.<BR/><BR/>Now that you know, and we know, you should reach your "goal." Hopefully, you will keep us posted as you explore which of the three takes precedence. Or if you will be able to somehow balance and whirl all three. I'm betting the latter.<BR/><BR/>Ciao bella...really enjoyed the enlightenment. Your voice sounds clear and wonderful.Sideways Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002230726261736435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1171746161802239572007-02-17T16:02:00.000-05:002007-02-17T16:02:00.000-05:00Betty,If it makes you feel better, I just wanted y...Betty,<BR/><BR/>If it makes you feel better, I just wanted you to know that you have my dream life and I'm so jealous!!<BR/><BR/>I LOVE "critters", and even though we have a few (emphasis on "few") here in my town, they don't usually come around the yard because we have dogs, and they seem to sense that. My friend two blocks away has a racoon that comes to her back door every night for food...he actually scratches the door...it's so cute!! I had some bunnies living under my shed, but I haven't seen them since September ( my dogs have their own dog run on the other side of the yard, so I know they didn't eat them)!<BR/><BR/>I understand your confusion...I have felt that I've wanted to move so many times, but what I realized for me (emphasis on "me") is that I only wanted to move when I wasn't happy with the way my life was going. "Moving" would, in my mind, "fix" everything and let me start all over. I still dream of moving to the country eventually, when the kids are out of school...but I've learned, in the meantime, to accept where I'm at "now" and be appreciative of it! I wasn't really able to do that a few years ago. So I look at the positive (I just did this last night with a friend who can't wait to live full-time in her PA house): I'm happy that my kids can walk to McDonald's to hang out, or the 5&10, or the pizza place. I'm happy that they have close friendships and that they feel comfortable at my house and their friends' houses. I'm thankful that my house, although small, is really cute and not ugly (haha)!! These are the things I try to tell myself every day...and it works. I love my home right now. And I'll love any home I have in the future, too!<BR/><BR/>AGAIN...I'm so long-winded!! Sorry!!!Dust-bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610355970669069345noreply@blogger.com