tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post116767452608904360..comments2023-11-03T07:37:35.682-04:00Comments on Whirling Betty: a shaky startB.S.http://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1170349251276185222007-02-01T12:00:00.000-05:002007-02-01T12:00:00.000-05:00Wonder what he'd do if you sued him for back child...Wonder what he'd do if you sued him for back child support? If he wants to screw you in court, that's exactly what I'd do: get him to pay up.casshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10202121030981580666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1170097888634867642007-01-29T14:11:00.000-05:002007-01-29T14:11:00.000-05:00I am blog surfing to find mothers to contribute to...I am blog surfing to find mothers to contribute to a new e-magazine that I am developing called Mother to Mother. Go to http://www.motheroftwosguide.com/contribute.shtml for details. We are always looking for new articles, photos, product testers, etc. <BR/><BR/>Hope to hear from you!MOThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07422078516536342466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1169130914762804932007-01-18T09:35:00.000-05:002007-01-18T09:35:00.000-05:00Thank you, 5th Street Forum. Right now we are enj...Thank you, 5th Street Forum. Right now we are enjoying a period of relative peace, waiting for Bruce to file. <BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1169130798594254532007-01-18T09:33:00.000-05:002007-01-18T09:33:00.000-05:00Dear Lisa,That was a brilliant move. I finally co...Dear Lisa,<BR/><BR/>That was a brilliant move. I finally convinced Bruce to stop calling me, so I won't have any such opportunity, it seems.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1169130703272509782007-01-18T09:31:00.000-05:002007-01-18T09:31:00.000-05:00Rich, yes, you are right- I am not allowing any co...Rich, yes, you are right- I am not allowing any contact between us and the father. Only a court order will change that. <BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1169130583045843982007-01-18T09:29:00.000-05:002007-01-18T09:29:00.000-05:00Thank you, Dawn. It really was unbelievable, and ...Thank you, Dawn. It really was unbelievable, and afterwards, the father wanted to go on as if nothing had ever happened!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1169093652819003432007-01-17T23:14:00.000-05:002007-01-17T23:14:00.000-05:00wowwhat an A**i hope everything turns out well for...wow<BR/><BR/>what an A**<BR/><BR/>i hope everything turns out well for you and "C"5TH Street Forumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18176506079568220447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1168660552458552622007-01-12T22:55:00.000-05:002007-01-12T22:55:00.000-05:00When my ex-husband threatened me on my cell phone,...When my ex-husband threatened me on my cell phone, I put it on speaker mode and taped it onto a tape recorder. That's what eventually got him arrested.<BR/><BR/>I guess I should share that thankfully, after he hit rock bottom, he found God and developed an extremely successful business. He's definitely a lot easier to deal with, although we were never compatible as a husband and wife should be to begin with, and never will be.<BR/><BR/>Take good care,<BR/>LisaDust-bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610355970669069345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1168650938244804092007-01-12T20:15:00.000-05:002007-01-12T20:15:00.000-05:002 words:Restraining OrderWith that kind of a tirad...2 words:<BR/><BR/>Restraining Order<BR/><BR/>With that kind of a tirade, you could make a very easy case for psychological abuse. If it's been going on for years, you need to get him completely out of your life. Get the restraining order and call the police the second he tries to ignore it.Rich Gautierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06254416673946498275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1168381346311724552007-01-09T17:22:00.000-05:002007-01-09T17:22:00.000-05:00My heart ached reading this post. I cannot believ...My heart ached reading this post. I cannot believe that a father would act so irresponsibly, and in front of his child too.<BR/><BR/>Here's to a new year and a great start!<BR/><BR/>here via blogexplosion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1168214128406992112007-01-07T18:55:00.000-05:002007-01-07T18:55:00.000-05:00Thank you, Kelley. Standing up to people has not ...Thank you, Kelley. Standing up to people has not been my forte in life, so this is obviously a lesson I've needed to learn. Thanks for {listening}!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1168206408086310452007-01-07T16:46:00.000-05:002007-01-07T16:46:00.000-05:00I echo Tree.{Deep Listening}Damn. (Hugs)I am prou...I echo Tree.<BR/>{Deep Listening}<BR/><BR/>Damn. (Hugs)<BR/><BR/>I am proud of you Betty. Sorry too, but proud.<BR/><BR/>Bless your heart for protecting that child.Kel-Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04982430426722542837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1168118492702723182007-01-06T16:21:00.000-05:002007-01-06T16:21:00.000-05:00Dear Kacey,I think you're right- I'm dealing with ...Dear Kacey,<BR/><BR/>I think you're right- I'm dealing with a nutcase. Those phone messages are on my cell phone, and they are automatically erased after 21 days or something. I'm going to call Verizon to see if there's a way to save them permanently. Thanks for reminding me about that.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1168114265541386652007-01-06T15:11:00.000-05:002007-01-06T15:11:00.000-05:00Dear Betty, I am horrified that any adult could ev...Dear Betty, I am horrified that any adult could even think of acting that way towards a child. You poor little boy should never have to deal with that again. I agree with Lisa and Teri in their comments. I'm happy that you took photos of the damage. The phone messages should be saved, so the judge can hear his attempts at manipulation. If he continues to call, you need a restraining order to keep him away from you and your little guy. Be careful, --- he sounds like a nutcase! I'm so sorry that you are going through this.Kaceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00204053320557518502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167960348279712692007-01-04T20:25:00.000-05:002007-01-04T20:25:00.000-05:00Dear Rain,I'm sorry you had to go through that. I...Dear Rain,<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry you had to go through that. I have kept a journal detailing Bruce's behavior, but I was assuming it would be useless in court. Thanks for letting me know otherwise.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167959149006667212007-01-04T20:05:00.000-05:002007-01-04T20:05:00.000-05:00My ex was just as sick. Good thing that you called...My ex was just as sick. Good thing that you called the police, do so every time, otherwise it is your word against his. Keep a journal, it is good in court. He will be ordered to pay child support and if he doesn't want to pay he may leave town like my ex did, we can only hope right?<BR/>Now he has a warrant for his arrest that keeps him out of my life. Good luck.Rainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13310666391868911676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167956101368539792007-01-04T19:15:00.000-05:002007-01-04T19:15:00.000-05:00Thank you, Priya. I agree that it's hard to imagi...Thank you, Priya. I agree that it's hard to imagine any judge allowing a man with such a temper to have unsupervised visitation. Yet Bruce is still leaving messgaes on my phone in which he continues to blame me, and he hasn't even admitted that he did anything objectionable! It's scary.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167955904241148142007-01-04T19:11:00.000-05:002007-01-04T19:11:00.000-05:00Dear Lisa,I know what you mean about not knowing w...Dear Lisa,<BR/><BR/>I know what you mean about not knowing why you didn't wake up sooner. It took extreme drama to get me to make a move- I guess he had me believing that everything was my fault, until Dec. 26. I'm glad you have been able to heal from your horrendous experience.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167933482743153512007-01-04T12:58:00.000-05:002007-01-04T12:58:00.000-05:00Whew! That's a lot to handle on one day, lady! Kud...Whew! That's a lot to handle on one day, lady! Kudos for standing up and not letting him drive off with the child. It beats me how someone can rage like that in front of a child, and pull poor C into this whole madness. Gosh...Hang in there. I don't know if any judge would allow visits with someone who has such a temper problem. Let's hope for the best.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>Priya.Priyamvada_Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06797797769716970487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167913458532280762007-01-04T07:24:00.000-05:002007-01-04T07:24:00.000-05:00Betty,My ex-husband has NPD. I didn't know about ...Betty,<BR/><BR/>My ex-husband has NPD. I didn't know about it while we were married, but then again, he had me so convinced that I was the cause of all of our problems, I wouldn't have thought to even consider that he had a disorder! When he left me for another woman, he actually had the nerve to say to me, "I wish you could just wait for me, then when we're like 45, we can get back together and spend our golden years together." Can you imagine? I was 33 at the time...yeah, THAT'LL happen!!<BR/><BR/>The abuse was always emotional, always psychological, and sometimes physical. Why I didn't wake up sooner is beyond me. It took me a long time to find myself again after we separated, but thank God I was able to cut loose to some extent. He'll always be a part of my life because of the kids, but now that they're older, it's not as bad as it was. <BR/><BR/>Good luck to you and hang in there!<BR/><BR/>Take good care,<BR/>LisaDust-bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610355970669069345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167871215419899002007-01-03T19:40:00.000-05:002007-01-03T19:40:00.000-05:00Dear Teri,I did indeed take photos. And today I t...Dear Teri,<BR/><BR/>I did indeed take photos. And today I took him to our child psychologist whom we hadn't seen in a while. I was extremely impressed with how she handled the situation, and the child opened up to her when I left the room. (And I don't know what he told her!)<BR/><BR/>Bruce also left a message on my phone today, in which he begged me to let him see the child. He still hasn't ever admitted to any wrongdoing- he's just trying to re-engage me, to pull me back into the dance. I am not returning the call. I am having to find my strength, that's for sure, and it's about time.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167864068533767642007-01-03T17:41:00.000-05:002007-01-03T17:41:00.000-05:00My dearest Betty...I am sad but proud for you. I k...My dearest Betty...I am sad but proud for you. I know you have been trying to juggle this situation for far to long by yourself. I hope you took photos of all the damage done. Of course the real damage can't be captured with a camera. <BR/><BR/>Stay strong chica...and if you waver, then reach out to stronger, less emotionally involved hands to pull you and the child from harms way. I happen to know you have someone like this in your life. Please give him my regards. ;)<BR/><BR/>Ciao bella...hugs, hugs and more hugs!!!!<BR/><BR/>P.S. I concur with Lisa.Sideways Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002230726261736435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167795724075351902007-01-02T22:42:00.000-05:002007-01-02T22:42:00.000-05:00Dear Lisa,I followed your suggestion, and I am ama...Dear Lisa,<BR/><BR/>I followed your suggestion, and I am amazed that you figured this out from so little info on Bruce. But you're right on the money. He meets ALL the criteria for NPD. Pretty scary. I always suspected a mental problem but couldn't label it. Thank you for the clarity- it does help to see that I was dealing with a truly disturbed person, and it wasn't all my fault, contrary to his ranting! Thank you!!!!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167781182150734012007-01-02T18:39:00.000-05:002007-01-02T18:39:00.000-05:00Betty,You are doing the right thing by taking your...Betty,<BR/><BR/>You are doing the right thing by taking your son to counseling. But please don't worry about Bruce Amighty getting custody of your child...even if he filed for it (which he probably won't...I'm sure he very much enjoys coming and going as he pleases), there would be no reason for a court to take the child away from his mother. It doesn't usually work that way. I'll bet that he just CONVINCES you otherwise...and they can be SO convincing...<BR/><BR/>I would advise you to Google "Narcissistic Personality Disorder". There IS a name for Bruce's disorder...and he DOES have a disorder! This is NOT normal behavior, it is very, very sick. You'll be shocked when you see the criteria for the diagnosis of NPD. I'll bet he meets quite a few of them! Once the light bulb goes off and you find out exactly what you're dealing with, you will be able to handle him in a different way...you will no longer let him bully you, and you will no longer walk on eggshells. These people are toxic; unfortunately, some of them are stuck with us forever, so we have to learn how to live in a healthy way while dealing with them. <BR/><BR/>...I'm sure you've realized that I've dealt with someone like this in the past (and the present, and most likely the future)! Good luck to you, have faith in God and stay strong!<BR/><BR/>Take good care,<BR/>LisaDust-bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610355970669069345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1167762805882218022007-01-02T13:33:00.000-05:002007-01-02T13:33:00.000-05:00Dear Mark,Thank you for your very kind words. Kno...Dear Mark,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your very kind words. Knowing that there are people like you out there keeps me going.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.com