tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post115428316928035305..comments2023-11-03T07:37:35.682-04:00Comments on Whirling Betty: conversation between Whirling Betty and Higher SelfB.S.http://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1154813432727803332006-08-05T17:30:00.000-04:002006-08-05T17:30:00.000-04:00Hey, Kelley, I like that! Being good at only one ...Hey, Kelley, I like that! Being good at only one thing a day kind of takes the pressure off. I'm going to try that out for a while. And I suddenly have a new take on my house decision after just losing another co-worker to cancer. I hope to post soon.<BR/><BR/>later~<BR/>WBB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1154811396352987982006-08-05T16:56:00.000-04:002006-08-05T16:56:00.000-04:00Just reading that wore me out.Whew.Im mulching the...Just reading that wore me out.<BR/><BR/>Whew.<BR/><BR/>Im mulching the yard today, but ignoring the kids, the laundry and the kitchen.<BR/><BR/>Im good, but only good at one thing per day. LOLKel-Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04982430426722542837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1154574986620038122006-08-02T23:16:00.000-04:002006-08-02T23:16:00.000-04:00Thanks for the cheerleading, Kelley, and believe m...Thanks for the cheerleading, Kelley, and believe me, I've already been working on the transformation. I'm trying to live like a balanced, aware, capable adult, instead of a whirling dervish who can only function at work and whose home life is chaos. Today I worked hard on getting my house in order, I asked a friend to come over and help, I zeroed in on my child many times, I ate responsibly (and cleaned up afterwards!), I didn't blow up at anybody (even when they spilled a drink on the rug) and I crossed several items off my to-do list. That's as balanced and adult as whirlingbetty can get, and I'm pleased.B.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1154553034438289162006-08-02T17:10:00.000-04:002006-08-02T17:10:00.000-04:00"HS: So it's possible, then, that what you seek is..."HS: So it's possible, then, that what you seek is not a house or a physical location."<BR/><BR/>BINGO!<BR/><BR/>You win this weeks luck jackpot!!!!!<BR/><BR/>Congratulations, O' Whirling Woman of Wisdom.<BR/><BR/>...and yes, I think you CAN have the house after you do all that.Kel-Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04982430426722542837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1154463452130075052006-08-01T16:17:00.000-04:002006-08-01T16:17:00.000-04:00Dear Priya,I understand your reluctance to buy as ...Dear Priya,<BR/>I understand your reluctance to buy as a single head of household or to be stuck with a house, single or married. Because of that, I refuse to look at houses in areas where sales are slow. I want to rest assured that my house is likely to sell quickly, although there are never any guarantees, I know. I can't stand the thought of being stuck, with a house or a man. In the current economic climate, a house can be one of the most reliable investments, inspite of all the hype about the real estate bubble bursting. (I'm glad I don't live in San Diego, though, or one of the other sinking markets.) (It's a great time to buy, though, if you are in one of those markets! In fact, it's a buyer's market everywhere, perfect for one like you who doesn't have to unload a house!)B.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1154451727756395892006-08-01T13:02:00.000-04:002006-08-01T13:02:00.000-04:00Dear Betty, You've made me think some more. Seems...Dear Betty,<BR/> You've made me think some more. Seems to me these are the metaphors due to which I'm still renting.<BR/><BR/>Buying a house solo = accepting the state of "single head of household" forever<BR/><BR/>Buying a house with a man = marriage (or some form of it). Thus, accepting the possibility of being stuck in a bad marriage down the lane - maybe divorce, and losing a home in the literal and figurative sense. Been through that pain before.<BR/><BR/>Hooboy! No wonder I balk at both. I worry subconsciously that maybe I don't have it (the luck, the ability) in me to keep a "home" with a man. But I don't want to write myself off in that department either.....I'm afraid of being stuck with my choice, if and when I make it. So the unconscious decision to remain the cat on the wall - dreaming of possibilities, but not acting on them. Renting, not buying.<BR/><BR/>Ha! Thank you for making me think.<BR/><BR/>Priya.Priyamvada_Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06797797769716970487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1154438811171607442006-08-01T09:26:00.000-04:002006-08-01T09:26:00.000-04:00Dear Teri,Thank you for once again reminding me th...Dear Teri,<BR/>Thank you for once again reminding me that whatever I do is the right choice. Even if we move and it's a disaster, it would still be an exciting adventure, wouldn't it? And we'd get to live in that really cool part of town while the disaster occurs. <BR/><BR/>Even though I repeatedly decide not to go for it, the house seems to beckon me. Friends say, though, that I have the ability to rationalize anything (and they go on to say I should've been a lawyer). Few people would look at my situation and say it's a good idea to move, but I'm a defiant whirler who can spin anything.<BR/><BR/>Hugs and thanks,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1154409619823809492006-08-01T01:20:00.000-04:002006-08-01T01:20:00.000-04:00Ahhh Betty...priceless. Glad I could "afford" to c...Ahhh Betty...priceless. Glad I could "afford" to come by.<BR/><BR/>Well, you have it all figured out chica...whatever you do is the right choice. Which choice is the best choice though? Only you can answer that.<BR/><BR/>Good luck and hugs to you, the child and the higher self. Keep me posted.<BR/><BR/>Ciao for now...Sideways Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002230726261736435noreply@blogger.com