tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post115111288270572570..comments2023-11-03T07:37:35.682-04:00Comments on Whirling Betty: walk through the parkB.S.http://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151886541506506742006-07-02T20:29:00.000-04:002006-07-02T20:29:00.000-04:00Dear Priya,Yes, I'm starting to see that it's very...Dear Priya,<BR/><BR/>Yes, I'm starting to see that it's very important for me to show my child's father that I'm not afraid of him. I'm strong enough now, I think, to take action for the first time. Just today I made that decision, and it's a great relief.<BR/><BR/>I'm flattered that you thought of my little chico!<BR/><BR/>Hugs and smiles,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151812675218592932006-07-01T23:57:00.000-04:002006-07-01T23:57:00.000-04:00Dear Betty, Encounters such as the one with your ...Dear Betty,<BR/> Encounters such as the one with your ex leave one exhausted, wondering if humanity and decency exist on earth....<BR/><BR/>Court is stressful. But with bullies, there's no other option. So say a prayer, take a deep breath, and do what feels right. For one, it sends the message that you're not afraid of him. And like Teri said, the thought of paying up might put him off for a long while.<BR/><BR/>Your thoughts so resonated with me when you talked of the stranger smiling at you. I too have had similar thoughts. And have come close to tears, wondering why someone I had thought of as "mine" couldn't be as kind.<BR/><BR/>Today I saw a small dashound puppy running about excitedly, and remembered your chico.<BR/><BR/>Take care. <BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>Priya.Priyamvada_Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06797797769716970487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151467681836023882006-06-28T00:08:00.000-04:002006-06-28T00:08:00.000-04:00Dear TA,I cherish your encouraging words. Thank y...Dear TA,<BR/><BR/>I cherish your encouraging words. <BR/><BR/>Thank you,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151425494895315102006-06-27T12:24:00.000-04:002006-06-27T12:24:00.000-04:00This is one amazing post. Brava. You convey your p...This is one amazing post. Brava. <BR/><BR/>You convey your plight with elegance and grace. Any man worth anything will see your beauty and validity. Rest and remain continuously assured of that. Hold that thought... You are worth it.<BR/><BR/><I>"I left the questions at the altar and continued on toward the casting pond."</I><BR/><BR/>What a grogeous, poetic line. Music.<BR/><BR/>love,<BR/>TADTclarinethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06482572917950645940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151292396855369322006-06-25T23:26:00.000-04:002006-06-25T23:26:00.000-04:00Dear Shankari,You're right- it makes sense to seiz...Dear Shankari,<BR/><BR/>You're right- it makes sense to seize those fleeting graces and milk them for all they're worth. As in the case of the Chihuahua, sometimes the benefits last a very long time if we allow them to.<BR/><BR/>Smiles,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151291982264697952006-06-25T23:19:00.000-04:002006-06-25T23:19:00.000-04:00Dear anonymous,Thank you for that smile and for th...Dear anonymous,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for that smile and for the insight which rings true.<BR/><BR/>Endless smiles,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151291577686227152006-06-25T23:12:00.000-04:002006-06-25T23:12:00.000-04:00Dear Teri,Thank you for knowing that I had posted!...Dear Teri,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for knowing that I had posted! Most of my former readers probably think I've abandoned my blog because I post so infrequently these days. I decided to go out on a limb and write about what's bothering me instead of continuing my silence.<BR/><BR/>And it paid off. I wouldn't have had your support and wisdom on this topic otherwise! I like your speculation that he might disappear into the woodwork.<BR/><BR/>Here's to Deadbeat Ducks Disappearing!!!!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>BettyB.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08724883690591213622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151216713440424252006-06-25T02:25:00.000-04:002006-06-25T02:25:00.000-04:00Dear Betty,At times all it takes is a random smile...Dear Betty,<BR/><BR/>At times all it takes is a random smile from a stranger or unexpected respect or reassurance that has us crumble at the otherwise graceless experiences we are occasionally subjected to. Enjoy these graces and let them enrich you- seek them out and glory in them, as everything is so fleeting- the graces and their lack too. <BR/><BR/>Glad you are able to talk about the little Chihuahua. He is in my thoughts each time I run into a lovable dog. <BR/><BR/>Hugs<BR/><BR/>ShankariShankarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693884980610429332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151172484167414372006-06-24T14:08:00.000-04:002006-06-24T14:08:00.000-04:00Oh yes, and here is your smile.Oh yes, and here is your smile.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151172309868411192006-06-24T14:05:00.000-04:002006-06-24T14:05:00.000-04:00You only owe your child and yourself. Men like the...You only owe your child and yourself. Men like the father rarely have the stuffings to own up to their responsibilities by pursuing legal avenues, preferring to bully and whine or puff up their ugly chests to get their way with sweet peaceable people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151172189117433612006-06-24T14:03:00.000-04:002006-06-24T14:03:00.000-04:00P.S. I knew you posted this morning before I came ...P.S. I knew you posted this morning before I came by... ;)Sideways Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002230726261736435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17516221.post-1151172108542475782006-06-24T14:01:00.000-04:002006-06-24T14:01:00.000-04:00Dear Betty...no rhyme or reason, which is so often...Dear Betty...no rhyme or reason, which is so often the case in such matters. I know money is not a primary factor here, but he would also have to pay all of the back child support. Having said that chica...you have the upper hand. Often when someone does not want to pay up, they disappear into the woodwork. At what cost to the child then comes to mind. Limited exposure, a lot of exposure, or no exposure with his father. Hard to say what is best, as you wear your shoes and I wear mine...but I have witnessed many friends go through this, including the opposite in my own situation.<BR/><BR/>I do know one thing for sure...the best defense is a good offense. Seems as if this is what the father of the child has implemented from his play book. He wants you to think he has you over the metaphorical barrel...when in reality, you - the mother - has ultimate control. <BR/><BR/>I am glad you are writing about this and the little chalupa yapper. Please know that I am always around for you.<BR/><BR/>I guess I should have included another duck in last week's article..."Deadbeat Duck," comes to mind. ;)<BR/><BR/>Ciao bella...hugs to you and the child.Sideways Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06002230726261736435noreply@blogger.com